If you’re thinking about getting married, go for it! Just elope. These dream weddings we plan are headaches and there comes a point of frustration when you’re waiting on people to get it together. I’m at that point. We’re a little over a month away and I’m ready to throw in the towel. The things we’ve been through with only planning aren’t worth the headache. The only thing that keeps me going is the money invested at this point, but a part of me wants to say, “Oh well – God will provide and restore what was lost.”
Here’s a quick rundown of why I’m like, ugh! Brides, grooms – this one’s for you!
- Our reception MC dropped out and didn’t tell us. We found out they had another commitment while I was scrolling on Instagram. They said they were scared to tell my fiancé like we weren’t following this person. I get that people have lives, but the least folks can do is be up front. We found a replacement ASAP.
- We had to remove several people from our guest list including family members. There’s a saying that weddings and funerals bring out trauma and people’s stuff. One thing this has taught us is to expect people from people. We’ve learned not to expect people to climb the highest mountain for us because people have their own insights, intentions, and experiences that are guiding their reactions and engagement.
- We have to remind people to RSVP. I didn’t know this was a thing until I did a Google search. Like, we have a caterer to pay and inform. We can’t assume people will show up. Leave up to us, folks just won’t eat. But this goes with the other two points about prior commitments and intentions. Just say no if you can’t make it! We won’t be offended. It’ll save us money.
- I have a Type A personality when it comes to planning. My fiancé doesn’t have the same personality when planning, so it’s very important to set dates and times to review everything. Things will still get missed. I’m learning to go with the flow, but I’m also a recovering perfectionist.
- We made the mistake of assuming people we thought were close to us would be more supportive, but we’ve had little to no support. We could care less about the financial support, but not even checking in. I get we’re adults, but this is a big deal for us. So we’re going to proceed accordingly in the future.
That’s just a brief look into our experience. I’m so glad we decided against a wedding party because people are people. What you think isn’t always what you get. We’re definitely praying because only God can get us through this. We’re praying for an amazing day, and nothing but love and support from our family and friends.
Hopefully my next update will be more pleasant and light-hearted. Wedding planning is not for the faint of heart.